A View from the Pew: When they Hand You the Scissors

Let me speak from the heart today — because somebody needs to hear this truth and hear it plain.

Not everyone who walks into your life comes with love in their heart or purpose in their steps. Some are not sent by God — they’re distractions disguised as destiny. They come to consume, not to contribute. They come to take, not to build. They don’t see your soul — they see your shine.

They’re not in love with you — they’re in love with your potential. Your kindness. Your access. Your resources.

And I know this, because I’ve walked that road. I’ve showed up for people who never returned the favor. I’ve prayed for folks who never whispered my name in their own prayers. I’ve carried the weight of others while silently sinking under my own.

Let’s be real — some people aren’t loyal to you, they’re loyal to the benefits of being around you. That’s why they disappear when the favor dries up. That’s why they get quiet when the attention shifts. That’s why they’re always reaching for your hand — but never extending theirs.

But the Bible is clear:

“Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” — Amos 3:3

You can’t walk with everyone. Some people were only meant to be in your life for a season, but you tried to make them lifelong. You kept giving, hoping they’d one day see your heart — not realizing they were never looking in that direction.

So do yourself a favor, stop breaking your back for people who won’t even bend theirs. Stop rowing the boat while they sit dry, arms crossed, critiquing your stroke. Stop keeping people in your circle who vanish every time it’s not about them.

You are valuable. Your love, your loyalty, your energy — that’s kingdom currency. And you’re not called to waste it on those who treat it like pocket change.

Ask yourself:
If your talent disappeared — would they still be here? If your name wasn’t known — would they still answer your call? If all you had to give, was you — would that still be enough?

Because sometimes, the people you give the most to… will do the least for you.

Don’t let their absence break your belief. Don’t let their betrayal break your spirit. You are not their loss — they are yours.

There are people, God-sent people, waiting to pour into you. People who aren’t trying to climb on your back but walk beside you. People who won’t drain you — but develop you.

“Surround yourself with elevators, not opportunists. With sharpeners, not leeches.

And when you finally do what needs to be done — when you cut off those who were never really for you — don’t be surprised when they call you the villain.

Let them talk. Because here’s the divine truth:
You should never feel guilty for cutting off someone who handed you the scissors.

Protect your peace. Guard your purpose. And honor your worth.

You don’t owe anyone your presence. You don’t have to carry what was never yours. You don’t have to stay connected to people who were only sent to distract you from destiny.

Finally let me say this:
If they’re not supporting, they shouldn’t be important.
If they’re not praying for you, they shouldn’t be weighing on you.
If they can’t clap for you when it’s not their turn — let them go.

Choose peace over pressure. Choose growth over guilt.
And above all else, choose you — because God already did.