A View from a Pew: When It’s Time to Go

I was standing in my kitchen the other day, and the Holy Spirit spoke through a bunch of bananas.

Yes—bananas.

You see, I had left them sitting out too long. At first, they were perfect. Ripe. Sweet. Full of potential. But I kept them in the same place after their season had passed. Now? The tops had turned black. The fruit was shriveled. Lifeless. And I heard God say, “That’s what happens when you stay too long in a place I only meant to grow you through.”

See, those bananas were ready. They had served their purpose, reached their peak. All I had to do was eat them in a timely manner. But because I delayed, they began to die in an environment they had outgrown. And isn’t that some of us?

We’ve stayed in places we’ve outgrown—jobs, relationships, churches, cities, mindsets—not because God told us to, but because fear convinced us to. Comfort lied to us. Guilt guilted us. Loyalty locked us in.

But let me ask you this: At what cost?

Because now you feel like the life is being sucked out of you. Joy? Diminished. Peace? Disturbed. Passion? Gone. You’ve been waking up tired, going to sleep restless, and wondering why you can’t breathe in the same space you used to thrive in. It’s because your season has shifted, but your location hasn’t.

God will grow you—but He will also move you. And when you ignore the signs, He’ll send discomfort. Why? Because stagnation is not your portion. You weren’t created just to exist—you were created to expand.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.” That means there’s a time to stay—but there’s also a time to go. And when your purpose has been fulfilled in a place, lingering too long can lead to deterioration instead of destiny.

I know it’s hard. Leaving isn’t easy, especially when you’ve built bonds or planted roots. But don’t confuse seasonal assignments with lifetime callings. And don’t confuse outgrowing a place with being ungrateful for it. Some places were meant to be a launchpad—not a landing zone.

Some of you are praying for fresh wind while clinging to stale air. You’re asking God for increase while holding onto decrease. You’re trying to make room for new blessings while refusing to release old burdens.

I’m telling you, it’s time to go.

Not just physically—but emotionally. Spiritually. Mentally. Release what no longer serves your growth. Walk away from what’s been quietly killing your joy. Trust that God doesn’t call you away from something without already preparing what’s next.

You are not dying. You are transitioning. And it’s okay to grieve what you’re leaving behind—but don’t let that grief stop you from stepping into the life you deserve.

Growth requires movement. And sometimes, staying in the same place too long doesn’t just stunt your progress—it starts to kill your purpose.

Let this be your wake-up call: it’s time to move. Not out of rebellion, not out of fear, but because your potential deserves a place to thrive—not just survive.

And when you get the answer, don’t be afraid to move. Don’t be afraid to breathe again.