A View from a Pew: What Are We Really Calling Empowerment?

It happened quietly. So quietly that most people didn’t notice.

Somehow, we turned selling access into empowerment. We turned being desired into being valuable. We turned attention into worth, measured in likes, views, and dollars.

And nobody stopped long enough to ask the most important question: What does this cost—long term?

Today’s culture tells young women that attention equals power. That if men want you, you’re winning. That if you can monetize your body, you’re “smart,” “liberated,” and “in control.”

But here’s the part they don’t advertise: Attention is not respect. Desire is not love. And money does not erase spiritual consequences.

The message is subtle but constant: Use them before they use you. Get what you can while you can. Don’t worry about tomorrow.

But you cannot build a future on short-term gratification. You just can’t.

Before someone says, “I’m grown. It’s my body. God knows my heart,” let me say this gently but clearly:

God knowing your heart does not mean He approves of your choices.

OnlyFans culture calls it “content.” But your body is not content. It is a vessel.

City-girl culture says men don’t matter. But broken men don’t heal broken women—and broken systems don’t create wholeness.

What they don’t show you is the aftermath. They don’t show you the loneliness.
They don’t show you the loss of peace. They don’t show you how hard it is to turn lust off once you’ve trained yourself to sell it. They don’t show you how difficult it becomes to receive real love after your value was built on access.

Scripture says your body is a temple. Not a product. Not a brand. Not a hustle. And temples were never open to everybody.

This culture says, “Cash in now. Deal with consequences later.” But later always comes.

Later comes when you want real love. Later comes when you want peace. Later comes when you want to be seen for who you are—not just what you offer.

And here’s the truth nobody wants to say out loud: Even the men who consume the culture don’t respect it. They’ll watch it. They’ll pay for it. They’ll benefit from it.

And still say they want a wife “who isn’t like that.” That alone should tell you everything.

City-girl culture makes women feel powerful temporarily. Godly womanhood makes women powerful permanently. One feeds the ego. The other protects the soul.

This isn’t about shame. It’s about sight. Because freedom without discipline always turns into bondage.

So, what do we do with this? We stop letting culture define our worth. We stop confusing attention with value. We stop letting money talk louder than conviction.

We ask ourselves hard, honest questions: Is this feeding my flesh—or building my future?

God never called women to be consumed. He called them to be covered.

The world may clap for City Girls and OnlyFans checks. But heaven does not.

And at the end of the day— God does not.

From the pew, this isn’t judgment. It’s love trying to warn before regret has to teach. Choose wisely. Your future is listening.